A Country Girl Novel

Marketing and Selling a Self-Published Erotic Novel
August 29, 2011, 4:17 am
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Part 3


Call the booksellers and ask to speak to the manager. Make a short dynamic pitch. Give the bookstore manager a compelling reason to order your book. Timely, newsworthy, unique perspective, anything that says your book is different. This is where your telephone pitch must be smooth, short, to the point, and conversational to keep the manager listening. 

Mention that you have a returnability policy through one of the distributors such as Ingram or Baker and Taylor. This is an essential cost, and one ad-on from your POD publisher that you must have, since without the option to return unsold copies, bookstores will not stock your self-published book. Orders will be placed only by customer request, or you can place your book in bookstores on consignment. This is a no-money proposition, since the 60/40 split (author/bookseller) results in $2 less than what I paid for my book, including shipping. It works as a teaser–if your book sells, then the bookseller will order additional copies. Build the demand and the bookstores will order. 

The returnability policy is the only essential add-on in my opinion–all the rest you can do for less money and greater flexibility. And if you are a good writer, your marketing materials will be better written. If the manager shows an interest, ask for his or her email so that you can send your press release and any good reviews. 

Make friends with your local book store manager. Your success depends on the relationships you build with people who can facilitate bringing your book to the market. In my experience, phone calls to managers of independent and chain booksellers have been overwhelmingly positive. In a short time, I received over 60 orders and as many “we’ll look into it.” All the managers were friendly, even those not ordering. 

Bookstores have been my most direct and satisfactory marketing tool. I talk to real people who say yes, or no that they will order my book for their store. Bookstores are better than book fairs and conventions or any other single sale. Your book on the shelf when sold will be reordered. Help the stores (independents and chains) to sell your book. Arrange book signings locally. 

What about subsidiary rights such as book clubs, audio, and foreign rights?

Foreign trade sales beware–not going there after reading how one can end up having no control of your book in a foreign country. No way to track sales, and in fact once you send them your files, you may never hear from them again. Never sign a contract for foreign sales without a literary agent or lawyer to review the contract. 

Responses vary. I had no response from book clubs, including those specializing in erotica. I had an immediate response from Brilliant Audio. However, they do not publish erotica on audio, and even if they did, the cost was prohibitive. 

Write your own promotional materials.

Press release, sell sheet, press kit, synopsis for website, pitch to bookstore managers, articles, presentation to writers’ groups, sample interview questions for radio and TV. Be prepared. 

Although necessary, press releases aren’t the best way to advertise since the media is looking for a great story, hook, or sound bite. You need to know how to work with the media—how to promote ideas. Why would they be interested in you and your book? 

Another way is to be newsworthy, which means to be unique. I had such an opportunity. I wanted to display my erotic novel at the trade fair of one of the largest writers’ conventions in North America. When I inquired if my erotic novel would be acceptable (never thinking that it wouldn’t), I was informed by the trade fair organizer who had no objection to my book that the school board, who sponsored the convention, does not sell erotica, and my book would have closed the fair. What a scandal! I would have become instantly notorious, resulting in enormous public attention, controversy, and sales!  

All this research, in person and on the internet, builds your email list. These are the people that you will be sending your press release to. Your press release should give the book cover, book summary, author bio, publisher, ISBN, price, publication date, and your contact (website). For your friends, i.e., those receptive to erotica, just give your website where they’ll find all that information anyway. 

What about lists? POD publishers encourage the author to purchase lists, but according to David Cole, author of The Complete Guide to Book Marketing, they are best avoided since the response rate is too small to make money. Search the web and build your list.  From my search, I discovered the Erotica Readers & Writers Association, Babeland, Romantic.com, selfgrowth.com, and dozens of other sites from magazines to blogs, newsletters, luxury fashion boutiques, and sex stores. Look into affiliates, although you would need a lot of traffic to make any money. 

You don’t need an expensive marketing package such as offered by the self-publishers. Any comparison study will show that you can reach the same audience at a fraction of the cost. You can have your novel represented at the tradeshows, place print ads, and send out press releases without breaking the bank. 

Always remind yourself of your goal. Obviously, to sell your novel! This means all possible effort. Back to networking rule number one–show up! Show up to launches, writers’ conferences, tradeshows, and bookstores. Show up on the net by writing articles at top article directories, such as articles.com, ezine, selfgrowth, and any erotica/romance friendly websites. 

You are in charge!

Like it or not, it’s all up to you. Be prepared to work tirelessly, and never give up. Consider marketing as an ongoing information process. It is not a one shot. Your book is always in print and you are always marketing. Always ask yourself how do I connect with my reader? And be prepared to have a lot of good ideas that go nowhere. As David Cole says in The Complete Guide to Book Marketing, “you need to think through a strategy that maximizes exposure to your target audience.” 

Do whatever works for you, and when you find what works, keep doing it. Fact is that with all your marketing efforts, you might sell a few hundred or maybe a few thousand books. If you market your book at writers’ conventions, book signings or workshops, you can expect a steady, small return. You never know where this marketing will take you, but have fun with it, learn new things, and you might just be surprised and get lucky. 


Have my efforts been worthwhile? Absolutely! Without these efforts, there would be no sales of my self-published book. To date, I’ve sold 90 copies over four months as a result of my marketing efforts (phone calls to bookstores, Google ad, website, press release, and articles). My calls to bookstores were during a two-month period. Since I have hundreds of bookstores (chains and independents) in the US and Canada to call–my monthly long distance rate is $17 for unlimited time any time–I anticipate more sales and reorders. 

I will be signing books inVancouver, Seattle, Boston, New York City, and Orleans MA on Cape Cod. Also, I will be attending the Seattle Erotic Art Festival (my novel will be in their bookstore) and visiting the Museum of Sex bookstore in New York City. 


 We all dream that our books will sell and be read. Maybe we’ll be lucky because luck does play a part in success. But let us remember why we are writers and to continue in the pursuit of our craft no matter what the outcome. And that means giving the time and care to seeing that our book finds readers. Marketing is a necessary part of the creative process unless one sees writing as self-indulgence and not as communication. Marketing gives voice to the written word. Never cease promoting your book. In my marketing, I’ve pursued many dead ends, or better said, non-responses, but I’ve also had many “hits.” One example is how after many refusals and persistent negotiating on my part, my book was finally entered into the data base of a large bookstore chain. This meant that local bookstores could order my book for a book signing instead of on consignment at a loss to me.  

What is a winning strategy? Have a well-researched marketing plan and stick to it. Be serious about it, but be prepared for blocks, dead ends, and frustration. Believe in your book and yourself; think creatively, and never give up!  


Kremer, John. 1001 Ways to Market Your Books. Fairfield, IA: Open Horizons, 2006.

Cole, David. The Complete Guide to Book Marketing. New York, NY: Allworth Press, 2003. [Cole’s book has a comprehensive list of resources after the text]

Marketing and Selling a Self-Published Erotic Novel was orginally published in the March 2009 edition of the Erotica Readers & Writers Association

About the Author: Jeanne Ainslie (BSc Hons, MSc) is a published author and experienced editor. Her first novel Angela, published by Dell in 1975, sold over 61,000 copies. A Country Girl, published by Blue Moon in 2005 is the sequel to Angela and sold out its 3000 printing in less than six months. To bring A Country Girl back into print, she published with Xlibris in August 2008 (ISBN: 978-1-4363-3179-1). Available at www.acountrygirl.com, Xlibris, Barnes & Noble, Amazon, Indigo/Chapters, and independent bookstores.



Marketing and Selling a Self-Published Erotic Novel
July 11, 2011, 9:15 pm
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Part 2

Niche market

Many avenues are closed to the erotic writer. Thus, the sex writer must tap the sex market. Although sex on the internet is a billion dollar business, the market for erotic writing is limited. Seen as a bad child, or not marketable in the mainstream print book world. And on the internet, writing can’t compete with video, resulting in a specialized audience who love to read. So we are back to the readers and the bookstore and not the mainstream seller. This wasn’t a problem in the Victorian era, or when Grove, Blue Moon, and Olympia Press were viable, but when they disappeared, so did the publishing potential for the erotic writer. 

Praise the internet!

Although this is a very bad time for new authors with publishers, who are completely inaccessible, and agents looking at the bottom line–dollars–the internet has suddenly levelled the playing field. Even the publishers are concerned and are joining the new technology. 

What lies ahead is a very innovative potential for marketing your book. You can compete when you are working with the curious, browsing masses if you are creative, intelligent, and have a compelling message. The internet has revolutionized the media and how we receive information. 

Viral marketing

Since erotica is niche marketing, how do I access my market? Online. Call it target viral marketing. This is an effective, no-cost way of creating your media list. Viral marketing (word of mouth) on the internet is a marketing phenomenon that facilitates and encourages people to pass along a marketing message. Viral marketing depends on an active and engaged audience and is enhanced by social networks, blogs, and You Tube videos. Email your friends and colleagues, and they will email their social networks if they are supporters. The outcome is immediate. Affiliate programs, free articles, and news releases are also examples of viral marketing. A news release or article can be picked up in the 100s of 1000s and reach a vast audience. 

Publishers Lunch

Publishers Lunch is an excellent resource for the publishing industry. Subscribe to their free daily newsletter. I had never heard of Publishers Lunch until an agent at a writers’ conference mentioned it as a daily essential read. Since then, they have been my continuing source of up-to-date information. From an ad in Publishers Lunch, I learned about Steve Harrison and his free teleseminars. Although Steve was pitching programs that I could never afford, I reasoned that he had to give some information to encourage subscribers. And I was right. I learned valuable strategies that were repeated in different programs. It’s up to you to do your homework, to listen to everyone, and ask questions because no one will tell you how to do it. You have to discover the way yourself. And it is a process of discovery. You will pursue a lot of dead ends. For me, it was the e-book. I was convinced that was the way to go. So I took out many library books, bought others, read them all, made copious notes, and then decided that this wasn’t for me. No money with e-book publishers, since the retail price is too low. If you’re going to do an e-book, do it yourself from your website. 

Reviews are vital.

Booklist, Kirkus Reviews, Library Journal, Publishers Weekly, and Midwest Book Review are a few. The Midwest Book Review gives priority consideration to small publishers and self-published books. ForeWord magazine reviews books from independent publishers, PODs, and e-Books. Only about 5% are selected. 

Publishers Weekly and Kirkus Book Reviews don’t review print-on-demand books or previously published books; however, Kirkus Discoveries will review your book for $400, and yes, they do review erotica. For free reviews, I searched the internet. Four erotica websites responded to my request for a review. 

Book reviews are good value. Use your reviews as promotion on your website and at bookstores. Create links from a good review to your own website. Even if the review is neutral or negative, you can usually find some positive quotes to use for your publicity. 

Cost options

  • Advertising (print and online)
  • Teleseminars, joint ventures
  • Writers’ conferences and workshops (rent space, flyers, and advertising)
  • Book fairs and the regional tradeshows–BookExpoAmerica (BEA), Combined BookExpo (CBE)
  • Sex tradeshows (for example, the Taboo show in Vancouver, BC)
  • Swingers’ conventions
  • Your book as a collectible signed by the author on eBay and Amazon  

For the fifth consecutive year, BookExpo America (BEA) is joining with New York based Combined BookExpo (CBE) to create the New Title Showcase. The cost per title is $265, considerably less than any POD publisher offers. Travel expenses are part of the book and trade fair cost. In the case of the book fairs, you can save travel costs by sending your book. If you live in New York City, attend the annual Independent and Small Press Book Fair in Manhattan—admission is free.  

Print advertising

Great cost for the New York Times Book Review and the New York Review of Books, and the consensus is that it takes at least three print ads to make a sale. This is not for the self-published author marketing one book. Take advantage of any free ads such as those offered by some writers’ groups for their members. If you do choose to advertise, your advertising may be more effective after reviews or an author tour. 

Online advertising is the same story. However, I chose two online ads and one print ad for my erotic novel—a 250 clicks Google ad with Xlibris (US$201), an online ad (AU$100) for one year at Adult Resources US that included a free review, and a print ad (CD$64) in The Writers’ Union of Canada newsletter distributed by subscription to individuals and libraries. 

The Google ad was wildly successful. Although I paid for 250 clicks, the clicks were overflowing, and Xlibris was not able to stop them in time. According to my Marketing Services Representative, “The keywords are highly relevant and the topic was very hot.” Instead of 250 clicks, my ad clicked 391 before it was stopped! However, whether clicks translated to sales, I have no way of knowing. 

The e-book would be my last resource, only if all else fails. Xlibris used to offer an e-book option, but no longer (they do now), since e-books didn’t sell, particularly fiction. Non-fiction sells more in all media. 

Publication date as a marketing tool is big with e-book authors who are selling their book as a marketing tool for their workshops, newsletters, and coaching. Their e-book and many free bonuses are what lure the web browser to buy the big price tickets of conventions, workshops, and coaching. This model works for non-fiction, but not fiction, and certainly not for the erotic novel. After all, I’m not going to give away free dildos or a discount on my non-existent workshop “Discovering the G-spot.” 

I returned to my previous success, the print book, and became convinced that if I could get my book on the bookstore shelves, the browsing reader would buy, as they had done before, over 64,000 times. But I would use the internet for marketing, not print media, which is too expensive for its questionable return.

Marketing and Selling a Self-Published Erotic Novel was originally published in the March 2009 edition of the Erotica Readers & Writers Association.

Marketing and Selling a Self-Published Erotic Novel
June 10, 2011, 5:57 pm
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Part 1

You’ve written your book, and now it’s time to find a publisher. If you can’t interest an agent in your novel or non-fiction book, which is the most likely scenario in today’s competitive market, what next? In my case, my best selling erotic novel, A Country Girl, was out of print, and with the demise of Blue Moon and other publishers, my only option was to self-publish. But before you commit to a print-on-demand publisher, compare packages and contracts. Stay away from the extra services–that’s where they make their money. You can write your own press release and build an email list that is specific to your target audience by researching the web. All the information you’ll need is there–it is basic and costs you nothing. 

What is your marketing plan? I began with no knowledge of marketing. However, I did have a website for my book. A website gives credibility to your book and you can show your writer’s skills with a synopsis, biography, and an excerpt from a chapter. Offer the rest of the chapter as a free PDF to the reader who sends an email request. Then you can capture email addresses and further entice the reader to buy your book. Although, to date, I have not had a single request for a free chapter, in spite of many visitors to my website. If you are selling your book on your website, don’t discount to compete with bookstores. 

Do your homework. Who is your audience? How are you unique? What is your niche, or selling point? Maximize your target audience. When you target a specific market, you can build a list of readers who are potential buyers of your next book. You want to develop and maintain a close relationship with your readers. 

Know and target your audience. Sell the benefit of your book. A given for non-fiction and fiction is accurate research (life experience for fiction), organization, quality of writing, attention to detail, and editing. If your book is a niche market, research that market. I checked sex-oriented magazines, websites, sex therapists, tradeshows, sex shops, and bookstores. Send a press release. Ask if they review books. Magazine and specialty websites (in my case erotica) usually have a book section. If you can afford it, do selective print ads, or online. 

What are your options? This will depend on how much time and money is available.

What marketing is cost effective? Look at the different methods you have to reach your audience and what is the cost? You can target your audience in print, on the internet, and in person. Print and the internet are complimentary. Explore the no cost options first. Your goal is to do more for less money.  

No cost options

  • Give away books as promotion; enter contests; write erotic stories, articles, anything to get your author bio and website out there.
  • Keep an online presence by writing articles, blogs, and newsletters. Ezinearticles.com and Selfgrowth.com are examples from the Article Directory Lists, also referred to as Article Banks.  
  • Review books on Amazon.
  • Find book reviewers–online or print (copy of book to reviewer).
  • Keep up-to-date on writers’ groups, authors online, and news groups.
  • Consider listing your book on Powells.com. In order for a book to show up on their site, it must be stocked at one of their stores.
  • Contact bookstores, book clubs, and affiliates.
  • Subscribe to free newsletters for writers and independent publishers.
  • Do book signings locally, or when you travel.
  • Give interviews. 

When you write articles, write on your book’s subject. Have a hook, a selling idea. Think of the title of your article as a headline. How are you different? What is in the news now? Time your marketing. Take advantage of any news events or special occasions, for example, Valentine’s Day or the month of August, which is Romance Awareness Month.

The goal is to get the attention of your reader, who on reading your compelling, well-written article will go to your website to learn more about your book and you. Promote year-round. Sell your story, not your book. 

In Person

  • Book launches, writers’ conferences, tradeshows, and bookstores
  • Bookstore signings and readings
  • Workshops
  • Talk at your local writing club
  • Radio and TV (local and national)  

Marketing in person at book signings, writers’ groups, and speaking engagements is rewarding because you meet potential readers. These personal appearances can represent a huge percentage of the total sales of a book. 

Being there in person definitely makes a difference. Show up is a networking golden rule.  But when you can’t be there in person, your book can travel for you. To trade shows like BEA. Follow-up your contacts with an email, and then keep in touch as the occasion presents itself. Be generous—I can’t stress this enough. If you come across good information that would be of interest to your new contact, email them. You are building a relationship. You share a common purpose of selling your product. 

What I learned in my marketing was that personal contact, whether in person, email, or on the phone was the most effective. From the 100s of press releases that I sent out to a carefully crafted list of potential markets, the only replies I received were from a few friends. Yet a phone call to some of the same markets elicited an interest and a request for information. I followed up by emailing my press release and a positive review. Any unsolicited information is usually ignored. Don’t waste your time. Make contact first.

Marketing and Selling a Self-Published Erotic Novel was originally published in the March 2009 edition of the Erotica Readers & Writers Association.


The Chemistry of Love
April 30, 2011, 4:59 am
Filed under: chemistry of love, erotic novels

Love is a drug. The infatuation and euphoria of attraction are caused by naturally occurring amphetamines and dopamine. 

The second stage of love, attachment, is mediated by endorphins, which are natural morphine-like substances. Kissing produces endorphins that are 200 times more powerful than morphine! 

Oxytoxin, known as the bonding or love hormone, is released during nursing and orgasm in both sexes. Oxytoxin is also released when you kiss and massage your partner. 

Is it any surprise that when we “fall out of love,” we become restless and seek new attractions? But we don’t need to be ruled by our hormones. Couples can make a conscious effort to nurture their relationship and be encouraged to know that a loving touch and intimacy will strengthen their bond.

The Autobiography of Writing an Erotic Novel
April 19, 2011, 2:47 am
Filed under: erotic novels, publishing

Part 3

My experience the second time publishing was different from the first. A Country Girl was available at Borders, Barnes & Noble, Chapters, airport and independent bookstores, and sex stores in North America, and had worldwide distribution. I would go into my local bookstore and turn my novel face out and bask in the pleasure of my novel sitting on a bookstore shelf. I always offered to sign copies, and one manager arranged to have me sign preordered books at a display table. 

Once my novel had sold out, the copyright reverted to me. What to do? An erotic novel that had sold over 64,000 copies, without any advertising, and now out of print. The option was clear. Bring it back into print. After again trying the route of publishers and agents that considered erotica and having no luck, I turned to self-publishing. 

I signed with a major print-on-demand publisher after they assured me that there was no problem with the explicit content only to have my contract cancelled four months later when I submitted my manuscript. The content, I was informed, did not meet their publishing guidelines, and I was referred to clause 19 of my contract stating that the author warranties the work is not obscene under U.S.law. This had already been proven years before, during repressive times with no law suits, and my novel obviously conformed to US obscenity laws. The publisher emphasized that “publishing is a business of opinion, and our opinion is but one.” To their credit, they immediately refunded my money. 

Once again, I was stuck. I looked into my options and decided to become my own publisher and print with Lightning Source. I had even chosen the name of my publishing company, but I decided to call Xlibris whom I had been talking to before. After my previous experience, I had no expectation that Xlibris would publish my novel, which indeed is explicit and honest, but also romantic, innocent, and passionate. 

Again, luck prevailed. Fortunately, I had a strong supporter at Xlibris. When she asked if my book was anything like Erica Jong’s Fear of Flying, which she loved, I said, Even better! Well, to my surprise and joy, they agreed to publish my novel. And today A Country Girl, with a new cover and the addition of seven original nude drawings, is back in print forever! 

Happy? Yes! I’ve travelled a long way with this erotic novel, beginning in 1970, when I wrote in longhand at a small wooden kitchen table and then typed the manuscript on the toilet seat in the bathroom so as not to disturb my then husband, who was studying at our only desk in our small bachelor apartment, to 30 years later when I wrote the concluding chapter on a computer, and might I add, with no diminution of spirit or lusty intensity. 

Initially, I wrote under a pseudonym because of my parents, husband, and children, but when Blue Moon published A Country Girl in 2005, I decided to use my real name. I am proud of my erotic novel, and also of myself, since I never gave up. I believe in my story, and even today after all these years, when I reread Angela’s adventures, I am still moved and often surprised, yet again, at her boldness and passion. 

“The Autobiography of Writing an Erotic Novel” was originally published in the September 2008 edition of the Erotica Readers & Writers Association.

The Autobiography of Writing an Erotic Novel
April 15, 2011, 2:52 am
Filed under: erotic novels, publishing

Part 2 

The rest, as they say is history. The New York agent represented me and within three weeks I had a contract with Dell Publishing. Dell waited one year before publishing my novel to see the outcome of the repressive Burger Court under Nixon. My novel sold briskly over a period of three years without any advertising. When I asked my agent how it was doing, he said, it’s a bestseller—it’s selling at the rate of 15,000 copies a week! I was in heaven. Yet a trip to the New York bookstores showed no copies on the shelves. 

Then after many years of raising three children and a shattering divorce and two unpublished novels, I decided to dust off my erotic bestseller. Times had changed since Grove. My book was rejected on the basis of not enough romance, and I was told that the heroine must have only one lover. Well, I wasn’t writing about marriage, or one-on-one; I was writing in the tradition of John Cleland’s Fanny Hill about lusty, passionate, joyful sex. And yes, even romantic. Fanny marries Charles at the end of the book. As the internet burst with sex, the print publishers seemed to have retreated into correctness. 

Again, my agent, now considerably older, took up my cause. Ultimately as a result of his initial efforts, and after writing a whole new chapter as long as the original novel to satisfy the length requirements, Blue Moon published A Country Girl. From despair to joy, my novel sold out its 3000 printing in less than six months. But in spite of a back order of 500 copies, they declined to reprint. 

“The Autobiography of  Writing an Erotic Novel” was originally published in the September 2008 edition of the Erotica Readers & Writers Association.

The Autobiography of Writing an Erotic Novel
April 13, 2011, 10:13 pm
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Part 1 

Not everyone decides to write an erotic novel. In my case, I had been writing short stories for about two years and sending them to literary magazines and fattening my rejection folder. Some rejections were handwritten and encouraging, and one literary magazine wanted to publish one of my stories, but after a year had elapsed, they wrote to apologize that they had run out of funds and wouldn’t be able to publish my story. 

Frustrated with my failure to be published, I decided that I would write something that sells. I had just read at the time the New York Times bestseller Penelope Ash, written anonymously by thirteen New York Times editors. 

Publishing was very different in the early 70s. Grove Press was my obvious choice, and when I sent my novel to them, they were interested. But the editor who was considering my manuscript left Grove, and then when I asked for its return, they told me it was lost. Fortunately, I had made a carbon copy, but retyping my novel took months since I had a new baby and a two-year-old demanding all my attention.

Not wanting to waste years making the rounds of the publishing houses, I took a chance and sent my manuscript to an author whom I enormously admired, and still do, telling him of my experience with Grove, and could he perhaps recommend a publisher or agent? My favourite author, not only recommended his agent, whom he would call next time he was in New York and mention my name, but also made favourable comments and included a one page glowing critique by a woman writer friend. 

 “The Autobiography of Writing an Erotic Novel” was originally published in the September 2008 edition of the Erotica Readers & Writers Association.

Erotica versus Porn
April 3, 2011, 4:08 am
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  • The distinction between porn and erotica is largely subjective and reflects changing community standards.
  • Same words and intent to arouse sexually.
  • Both are about sexual desire, anticipation and arousal.
  • Porn is about stimulating our erogenous zones.
  • What drives the language in erotica is its passion and intoxication. The erotic gaze of the beloved. The erotic obsession.
  • Erotica engages our imagination and sexual fantasy to tease, provoke, and seduce the reader by shamelessly opening up to secret desires that are described in exquisite detail and fulfillment.
  • Porn lacks magic and imagination.
  • Erotica connects; porn disconnects.
  • Porn is about instant gratification and can often be derogatory to women.
  • Erotica celebrates sexual union.
  • The erotic is a mutual relationship, whereas porn is object oriented. The other seen as object.
  • There is no love in porn, no infatuation.

How Can Couples Rejuvenate Their Sex Lives?
March 26, 2011, 11:42 pm
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The biggest barrier between most couples and great sex is stress and a lack of time. How can couples keep the magic of love and romance in their relationship? 

  • Indulge in a naughty treat
  • Let go of inhibitions and bring your fantasies to life
  • Make a date for sex 

Naughty Treat

Ask your lover what he/she would like you to do, and then do it! Make eye contact, listen to your partner, let it flow, and don’t judge.

Surprise your lover. Break your routine and try something new. Make dinner naked. Wear sexy lingerie. Share fantasies. Read an erotic novel together, such as A Country Girl

Let Go Of Inhibitions

Be open to your partner. Relax, trust your partner. Know what your lover likes. Be present. Leave the baggage at the door. Forget your board meeting and past lovers.

Let yourself go and have fun. Keep an open mind to role playing, sex toys, lingerie, and massage. Make the first move for sex. You’ll surprise your partner and gain self-confidence. 

Make A Date For Sex

Set aside the time for a date with your partner. Don’t let your love life become routine. Don’t leave it to chance. This is especially important if you have kids. Make an effort to keep your sex life exciting!

If you don’t make your partner a priority, you could become a divorce statistic, or have an unfulfilling marriage.


March 25, 2011, 1:30 am
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A Country Girl is the story of ANGELA, a country girl, and her sexual awakening—from her first teenage love affair to the casual encounters of later years that threatened her innocence. It is about Angela, a woman with a vibrant sexuality and passionate joy for living. But it is about all women and their search for sexual identity. It is happy and tragic, beautiful and deeply romantic, and frankly erotic. All women and their men will find within it a portion of their own lives and fantasies.
      Angela’s first affair was full of romance, magic and mystery as she surrendered her virginity on a moonlit night in a fragrant hayfield. Not all the encounters that followed were: the James Dean look-alike who fulfilled her teenage fantasies, the college boys who shared her lust, the women who showed her a new understanding, her husband who introduced her to swinging, the strangers who turned her on to their own fantasies, and her midnight caller who seduced and enchanted her mind. But through it all Angela remains as always—joyous, open, honest, and somehow innocent.